I'm not perfect. No one is.
I gave up trying to be perfect years ago but some how I have still managed to present an unrealistic projection of myself on this blog. Although I personally feel that blogs that teach something or inspire people are more enjoyable to read than ones that are a daily vent of people's personal lives; I do feel like I want to share more about what being a parent means for me personally. It would bother me if people were reading my ideas and suggestions and thinking badly of themselves because they "should be doing more"with their children.
The point is this is not a competition, and we are all in this together. I became a mother very young and I often feel like my oldest and I have grown up together. I've learned allot from becoming a mother and from working with families.
Some things I've had to learn the hard way:
- pretzel rods are not a toddler friendly food
- If you don't encourage your child to learn to swim when they are small (and often afraid) they really won't want to learn when they are older.
- fighting with your spouse in front of your kids is not a good idea.
- too much TV can be harmful.
- your mother in law will inevitably learn how you really feel about her if you vent to your 5 year old.
- when you have more than one child, eating out is no longer an option
Considering there is no test that a person must pass in order to become a parent I think we all do what we can with the tools we've been given. In my case (being that I am an over achiever) I was given a 'tool box' from my own parents and when I became a parent I began trying to fill my tool box with new and improved tools and any that I hadn't received. My husband did the same thing and soon our tool boxes were quite full. And I've also discovered that a parent can never really fill their tool box because there is always more to learn.
Out of all the teachers and mentors I've had the privilege of knowing and learning from, it has been my children who have taught me the most. The hardest lessons and the most rewarding and beautiful ones too:
- Spanking doesn't work
- If I swear they will swear too
- Fast food is not good for growing bodies
- Reading out loud is entertaining for everybody if the book is Harry Potter
- Halloween doesn't have to be scary
- whoever it was who invented Legos was a genius
- whoever it was who invented the kazoo never had children
- words can hurt MORE than sticks and stones
- Daddies can kiss boo-boos and take bad dreams away, sometimes BETTER than Mommy
- my heart can love more than one baby
Thank you for reading my blog and for trying some ideas with your children. I'm not trying to impress you, I'm trying to connect with you and learn from you. I enjoy this medium for communicating but recognize it can be one dimensional, the real Mom in me is 3D.